{"id":911,"date":"2023-05-29T10:04:29","date_gmt":"2023-05-29T08:04:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/secteurdhorus.com\/?p=911"},"modified":"2023-05-29T10:04:41","modified_gmt":"2023-05-29T08:04:41","slug":"pas-damour-sans-intimite","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/secteurdhorus.com\/index.php\/2023\/05\/29\/pas-damour-sans-intimite\/","title":{"rendered":"Pas d&rsquo;amour sans intimit\u00e9"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"911\" class=\"elementor elementor-911\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-1f5c64c elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1f5c64c\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-65e7afb\" data-id=\"65e7afb\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9172140 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"9172140\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.16.0 - 09-10-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"750\" height=\"750\" src=\"https:\/\/secteurdhorus.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/astral-hug.gif\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-912\" alt=\"\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ddb6703 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"ddb6703\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-460b87b\" data-id=\"460b87b\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5897ef1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5897ef1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.16.0 - 09-10-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<div class=\"xdj266r x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">L&rsquo;intimit\u00e9 est la mesure du r\u00e9el dans une relation.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">On peut passer un instant torride sans aucune intimit\u00e9 et \u00e7a n&rsquo;aura aucune saveur, en tout cas concernant la relation.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Peut \u00eatre que \u00e7a aura satisfait un app\u00e9tit, ou un besoin pulsionnel (une compulsion).<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Mais la relation n&rsquo;aura pas chang\u00e9&#8230;\u00a0<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">En bien.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">En fait elle a beaucoup plus de chance de s&rsquo;ebrecher et de se d\u00e9truire ainsi.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">C&rsquo;est pour \u00e7a qu&rsquo;on a honte apr\u00e8s une relation qui a escalad\u00e9 vite mais sans aucune intimit\u00e9.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">En fait.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">La personne n&rsquo;a pas \u00e9t\u00e9 capable de prendre en soi qui je suis. Et inversement.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Une telle relation est un \u00e9chec, ou une confirmation, suivant comment vous le voyez.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">C&rsquo;est une confirmation de ce que vous ne voulez pas dans votre vie.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Un \u00e9chec de partage de notre intimit\u00e9.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Un isolement au lieu d&rsquo;une inclusion.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Pourquoi l&rsquo;intimit\u00e9 constitue par excellence la mesure du r\u00e9el dans une relation ?<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Parce que ce qui nous permet une escalade vers un acte sexuel, c&rsquo;est <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">la fiction<\/span><\/strong> qu&rsquo;on se raconte sur la personne comme sur l&rsquo;instant v\u00e9cu.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">C&rsquo;est l\u00e0 toute l&rsquo;importance du contexte.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Dans un contexte s\u00e9curisant de soir\u00e9e amicale par exemple, ce genre de choses peuvent arriver.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Des fois \u00e7a se passe bien, il y a eu partage d&rsquo;intimit\u00e9, le lien est fort et authentique, des fois \u00e7a se passe un peu moins bien, le partage a \u00e9chou\u00e9 mais l&rsquo;instant a quand m\u00eame \u00e9t\u00e9 v\u00e9cu.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Il y a eu mise en lumi\u00e8re sur nos fictions personnelle (intimes ?).<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">&#8230; Et parfois, elle nous d\u00e9goute profond\u00e9ment ces fictions.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Alors tout le travail est l\u00e0:<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Es tu conscient de tes fictions ?<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Aimes tu et ch\u00e9ris tu tes fictions ?<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Que fais tu pour t&rsquo;\u00e9lever au dessus d&rsquo;elles pour ainsi \u00eatre capable de partager celle des autres ?<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Et enfin&#8230;<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Es tu capable de partager sans aucune fiction ?<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Dans le pr\u00e9sent pur. Cadeau de la vie.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Homme comme femme sont rarement capable de \u00e7a et les besoins de Maslow doivent \u00eatre satisfaits pour en arriver l\u00e0.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Les humains sont sensibles aux fictions qu&rsquo;on leur a soumis par le pass\u00e9. Ils les ont int\u00e9gr\u00e9 au plus profond sans m\u00eame les questionner.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Et lorsque ces fictions sont \u00e9loign\u00e9es de la r\u00e9alit\u00e9.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00c7a d\u00e9goute un homme.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00c7a effraye une femme.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Parce que le r\u00e9el est toujours l\u00e0, pr\u00e9sent, encore une fois. Mais cette fois c&rsquo;est une ombre qui pl\u00e2ne.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Alors faut il annihiler ses fictions ? Eh bien certains ont essay\u00e9, ils ont eu des probl\u00e8mes.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">Annihiler ses fictions c&rsquo;est perdre tout espoir, et toute en-vies.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">C&rsquo;est pas la mort, mais l&rsquo;oubli.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Et donc.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Choisir ses fictions c&rsquo;est choisir sa r\u00e9alit\u00e9. Et en ce sens c&rsquo;est trouver une libert\u00e9 au del\u00e0 de tout l&rsquo;imaginable.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">L&rsquo;important est de conserver conscience sur elles. L&rsquo;origine m\u00eame de toutes m\u00e9ditations.<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Je vous le souhaite \u00e0 tous.<\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Paix sur vous, mais Intensit\u00e9 tout de m\u00eame !<\/div><div dir=\"auto\">\u00a0<\/div><div dir=\"auto\"><span class=\"x3nfvp2 x1j61x8r x1fcty0u xdj266r xhhsvwb xat24cr xgzva0m xxymvpz xlup9mm x1kky2od\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.xx.fbcdn.net\/images\/emoji.php\/v9\/t4f\/1\/16\/1f601.png\" alt=\"\ud83d\ude01\" width=\"16\" height=\"16\" \/><\/span><span class=\"x3nfvp2 x1j61x8r x1fcty0u xdj266r xhhsvwb xat24cr xgzva0m xxymvpz xlup9mm x1kky2od\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.xx.fbcdn.net\/images\/emoji.php\/v9\/t80\/1\/16\/1f64f.png\" alt=\"\ud83d\ude4f\" width=\"16\" height=\"16\" \/><\/span><\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\">Ps: Tout cela implique que l&rsquo;on peut partager une intimit\u00e9 tr\u00e8s profonde sans en arriver au lit, bien entendu. <span class=\"x3nfvp2 x1j61x8r x1fcty0u xdj266r xhhsvwb xat24cr xgzva0m xxymvpz xlup9mm x1kky2od\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.xx.fbcdn.net\/images\/emoji.php\/v9\/t66\/1\/16\/1f493.png\" alt=\"\ud83d\udc93\" width=\"16\" height=\"16\" \/><\/span><\/div><div dir=\"auto\"><span class=\"x3nfvp2 x1j61x8r x1fcty0u xdj266r xhhsvwb xat24cr xgzva0m xxymvpz xlup9mm x1kky2od\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div><div dir=\"auto\"><span class=\"x3nfvp2 x1j61x8r x1fcty0u xdj266r xhhsvwb xat24cr xgzva0m xxymvpz xlup9mm x1kky2od\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div><\/div><div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xtlvy1s x126k92a\"><div dir=\"auto\"><em>Adam Sylf, dans son 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